Dating hot and cold treatment
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I went to bed that night feeling hopeful and happy. Then, out of nowhere, two months later, a text from him: “Been thinking about when we can get together again.” Oooh, I burned with anger. Yet at the same time, my heart pounded with excitement. But, the roller coaster ride continued, as after the second night he retreated back into his coldness. What you have to realize if you are dating someone like this is that it has absolutely nothing to do with you! It consists of feeling warmth and of feeling loved and cherished all the time – not just sometimes. Looking back at the hot and cold guy, I don’t feel animosity toward him because I think I was an enabler for awhile, letting him treat me hot and cold. I also feel sorry for him because I don’t think he is capable of the kind of emotional intimacy I want in a romantic relationship.
The next day, I was hoping for a text saying something like, “Thanks for a nice night.” Nothing. The person could be unhappy in their own life, perhaps is in a bad place and maybe has self-esteem issues. And lastly, I feel lucky…(click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.) Like this article? Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling.
He acted attentive and kind and affectionate, and he made me feel like I was the only woman who mattered. The promise of Prince Charming takes us as high as the moon, only to have it plunge us deep into disappointment. Maybe it took being away from me to make him realize how much he liked me. The experience was just as great as the first date, even better. You’re hot and cold with me and I’m not sure why,” I said. In my mind, I was going to save this poor, sweet guy who had been hurt by some mean girl. I pulled him aside after a little while and asked, “What are we? Things went on like this with us for a few more months, a pattern of hot and cold, which resulted in super-high highs mingled with constant disappointment and resentment. I deserve better.” I realized I deserved my man to be hot and hot versus hot and cold. Dating someone who is hot and cold just makes you feel bad about yourself. When the person is hot, you are on top of the world, only to be pulled down (with hurricane-force winds) when he or she decides to be cold again.
At the end of the night, we kissed goodnight in my kitchen, and I felt like I was floating on a cloud. I managed to move on, but I always thought about him. We laughed and talked and kissed and even held hands. So, why do people choose to be hot and cold in certain relationships? A deep, meaningful relationship is one that is hot and hot.