Dating play hard to get
He likes you, he doesn’t like you, you want him, now you don’t want him. You point to someone, tell them you love them and that’s it, you seal the deal. I know what you’re thinking, why wouldn’t he want to be with you? He told me I had to wait if I wanted to hook up with him. If he doesn’t tell you, how are you supposed to know? I can’t believe we’re still at this point—come on people! Now, in the moment, you may laugh it off, but seriously, ditch that guy.
We send them cute messages, sexy photos, lead them on, but do we ever follow up with what we said we would do? [Read: The signs he uses to tell you he is interested in more than friendship] #10 He embarrasses you. [Read: 17 things that aren’t going to change about a guy] Now that you know the signs, it’s time you put the pieces of the puzzle together with your guy.
While some of them turned out to be unhelpful, others were downright destructive when put into practice.
The advice I became the most critical of was to “play hard to get” because it was a sure way to win a man’s heart.
But when worries of how long to wait before responding to a text take center stage, no one is getting to know each other.
Instead of worrying about how to win someone over, the focus should really be on authentically getting to know someone.
After that first date with Joseph (who is now my husband!
), I tested out quite a few of the pieces of advice that were given to me.
Instead, he texted you saying that he can’t make it and throws you a lame excuse. But if they cancel, they try to show you that they don’t care and they’re in charge. It’s my least favorite Katy Perry song, but alas, here I am talking about it. Of course, in the beginning, he’s attentive and super nice, but suddenly, he switched. Sure he may like you, but you know at the end of the day what’s going on.“The earliest instance we have of playing hard to get is documented as early as the 4th century BC when Socrates advised a woman that in order to attract more suitors, she had to be welcoming but also know when to withhold her affections,” explained Goldin.“Women are told not to show too much of their desire for romance, so playing hard to get is almost a last-ditch effort to gain some sort of power in the relationship. I know this makes you even more curious and obsessed with him but that’s his plan.I’ll never forget how overjoyed my friends and family were when I told them that a great guy had asked me out on a date.